Wacky Bad Asses

There are few people on the planet I have more fun with than this wild child, bestselling author Jen Sincero.

Today I am excited to share with you an excerpt from Jen’s new book- “” You Are A Badass, Now Start Acting Like One“ Published by Running Press. It will make you feel like you can do anything…And put a smile on your face!

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Chapter 27: BEAM ME UP, SCOTTY

Nothing is impossible, the word itself says “I’m possible.”

—Audrey Hepburn; actress, icon, fabulist

My grandmother on my mother’s side lived to be one hundred years

old. Nana was as WASPy as they make ’em: prissy, reserved, able to

avoid confrontation with the skilled precision of an F-16 pilot. For as

long as I can remember, she always looked exactly the same. She was

eternally adorned in a cardigan, pinned together at the top by an

antique broach, her pink lipstick and sparkly brown eyes shining

through a face-full of wrinkles that erupted in a series of “oh dears”

every time she laughed.

In her long lifetime, Nana witnessed the birthing of such pivotal human

achievements as the phone, the car, the TV, human flight, the

computer, the internet and rock and roll.

The two things that blew her mind the most, however, were putting

a man on the moon and the soda dispensers at McDonalds. She’d

stand there watching, gripped by disbelief, as an employee placed a

cup, small, medium or large, beneath a spout, pushed a button and

walked away, leaving the machine to fill it up the perfect, proper

amount. “How does it know where to stop?” Nana would shake her

head, mortified, “How does it know ?!”

After we figured out how to clone a sheep, she pretty much threw

in the towel on ever questioning anything again.

One day my family took her out for lunch to a restaurant on the

top floor of some giant hotel. When we got into the elevator, someone

accidentally pushed the button for the floor we were already on the

moment the doors closed, making them open right back up again.

Thinking we’d just gone up forty-five-flights in a split second, we

watched my sweet little grandmother exit the elevator, nervously patting

her hair as she wandered down the hallway muttering to herself,

“Why not?”

I want to sign off here by encouraging you to pursue your dreams

with the same belief that anything is possible as a little old lady in

knee-high stockings and sensible heels who was born in 1903 and

lived through the most technologically flabbergasting century to date.

Whatever you desire to do with your precious life—write jokes or

rock out or start a business or learn to speak Greek or quit your job

or raise a bunch of kids or fall in love or lose your flab or open

orphanages around the world or direct movies or save dolphins or

make millions or live in a canyon in a loincloth—believe that it’s possible.

And that it’s available to you. And that you deserve to

be/do/have it.

Why not?

Give yourself the permission and the means (yes, this includes the

money), to be who you are REGARDLESS OF WHAT ANYBODY

ELSE THINKS OR BELIEVES IS POSSIBLE. Do not deny yourself

the life you want to live because you’re worried you’re not good

enough or that you’ll be judged or that it’s too risky, because who does

that benefit? No one, that’s who. When you live your life doing the

things that turn you on, that you’re good at, that bring you joy, that

make you shove stuff in people’s faces and scream, “check this out!!!”

you walk around so lit up that you shoot sunbeams out of yer eyeballs.

Which automatically lights up the world around you. Which is precisely

why you are here: to shine your big-ass ball of fire onto this

world of ours. A world that literally depends upon light to survive.

You are powerful. You are loved. You are surrounded by miracles.

Believe, really  believe that what you desire is here and available to

you. And you can have it all.

Love Yourself

You are a badass.

Published by Running Press – Find out more >> http://JenSincero.com/buy-badass-book/

If you want to leave a comment I would love to know what crazy badass thing you want to do with your life and haven’t yet dared to do!

Archimedes said “Give me a lever long enough and strong enough and I can move the earth.”

I hear it said all the time- “I need 2 of me to get everything done!” “If only I could duplicate myself”… Well, what if you could?

There is only so much an individual can do on their own. You are a limited resource!

We are not meant to be doing this all alone!

My feature video today is about your dream team, and I will introduce you to 2 members of my dream team, who support me energetically and physically.

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So How do you Manifest Your Dream Team?

A useful exercise is to list your own ‘dream’ team- who would it include? Don’t miss anyone out! From VAs to Accountants to yoga teachers, mentors and peer groups – I see all this support as absolutely crucial to my business and life ease and success- now more than ever- mothers need more support than anyone. The catch is you may not believe you deserve it, or that it is possible for you.

I am here to tell you that it is, and it is worth the inner work you must do to shift this out dated pattern of sacrifice, settling for less, and not believing and perceiving the amazing possibilities all around you offering you support and love- so you can Get Your Gifts Out and thrive doing what you love.

Here is a snap shot of who I have on my team in no particular order:

• Mentor- monthly and when needed
• Therapist – weekly
• High Level Peer Groups & Friends/Colleagues in UK, Ecuador & USA- as and when- annually for Ecuador retreats
• Yoga Teacher- weekly
• Personal Trainer- weekly
• Accountant, – quarterly
• Bookkeeper – weekly/monthly
• Assistant- daily
• Virtual Assistant x2- weekly/sporadically depending on launches etc
• Virtual Business Manager – most days
• Nanny (UK) twice weekly
• Creche- every now and then
• Shaman – Monthly energy work
• Cleaner- weekly

This doesn’t even include my family, friends,  hairdressers, health experts like my local homeopath and my amazing beautician, and I am sure a ton more besides. But as you can see- it really does take a village!

Here are my 4 tops tips to receive support in your life:

1. Allow yourself to receive. Where are you blocking your good by refusing to accept/allow help and support? Affirm: “I am safe in the Universe and allow life to support me in my purpose now”. Breathe.
2. Make a list of your dream team. Price it up roughly and get grounded about how much money you need to make every month to hire your dream team.
3. Take action! You can call you team into being, it is a process and I suggest you just make a start with the biggest priorities for you…Don’t use logic allow your intuition to guide you.
4. Ask: ask around, ask God/The Universe for what you need. If you haven’t received it yet and are ‘waiting’ just check in that you asked in a way that someone would actually want to give to you. i.e. “Dear life/God/Universe/your angel… I am struggling to do everything at the moment and need your help. Please help me find the perfect nanny/VA/cleaner etc etc for my highest good now. I am handing this over to you and trust it will unfold perfect, Thankyou so much.”

Please share tips and comment below- who is on your team that you could not live without?

I was in a funk.

I was feeling jammed up.

I was inexplicably annoyed with everything.

I decided to work at a nearby cafe in the countryside, and sat down to write.

Nothing came.

I drank a coffee,

Checked some email.

I tapped my fingers on the table

I moved to sit outside.

…Still nuthin’….

I have learnt an incredibly important lesson in my years as a business owner about struggle.

Struggle is a state of being, not doing.

‘Work’ Does not have to be ‘HARD’ as our programming would have us believe.

Most of the actual tasks we need to do to make our businesses run effectively and make money are fairly simple. Easy, even….However, we can choose to experience struggle when we go about them.
We can people please, get distracted, beat around the bush – and prove to ourselves the belief of how hard it really is to achieve our dreams.We can tell ourselves “its so hard” and we don’t have enough of this, that, or the other.

But the truth is success and abundance are natural.

Hey there, I made this video for you if there’s something you need to do – like write a blog post, make some sales in your heart based business, speak on a stage, promote something you have created or basically need to ‘show up’ but have huge fears and can’t seem to quieten the negativity that stops you shining.

I share with you my simple tip to how I personally get out of my own way when it comes to doing what I love…

So what do you think? Was this useful for you and can you apply it right now? What do you feel inspired to do, be or create that maybe you have been running from? And what tips do you have to get out of your own way? Let us know in the comments below. Thanks for Sharing.

I’ve come to believe that a huge block for most heart-centered entrepreneurs and women with a big mission but who are not yet living the life of their dreams are held back by a truly paralysing fear:

The fear of criticism

The truth is that when you start really saying YES to yourself and your dreams, it will feel uncomfortable to take those steps forward at times, and you may well be criticised.
Now, for a sensitive person criticism feels not like a scratch but like a deep cut.

Criticism is cryptonite to creativity, joy and the ability to follow our hearts.

The thing is though, your sensitivity is part of your gift as a creative. It is what allows your intuition to be so finely tuned, your empathy to be so resonant, and your heart to be so open and full of love.

So how do you walk the bold path of creating your dream life whilst retaining your sensitivity and being powerfully grounded in your truth, no matter what?
Since criticism has been at the cornerstone of our education and upbringing, most people are walking around with a pervasive sense that they themselves are somehow ‘wrong’. It is a deep sense of shame and guilt that destroys their ability to respond authentically and act powerfully.

The sense of being somehow inferior, or unacceptable, and inherently ‘wrong’ is a subtle state of mind hampering your ability to truly be powerfully YOU.
Here’s 3 ways this shows up in business- and what to do about it so that you can cleanse criticism out of your life and flourish instead of flounder.

See which ones apply to you and take the steps to overcome them so you can get your book done, finally speak your truth, raise your prices or whatever else you have held back from for fear of being criticised or judged and become the powerful creator you are born to be.

1. Not putting yourself or your work ‘out there’…

in any shape or form and having a low self image that criticizes every reflection or portrait of yourself

In business this shows up as- resistance to creating articles/videos/bios/blogs, fear of ‘being visible’- avoiding photos, sharing, making comments and participating in social media.

2.Not disagreeing with anyone or speaking your truth …

unless you feel it is ‘accceptable’ to social norms

This shows up in a business as a failure to set and keep strong boundaries, placating or tolerating sloppy work or behaviours from your team, and acquiescing to what others say is ‘truth’ rather than checking in, speaking up, and making a stand for yourself.

It can also manifest as not telling people about what you do in a powerful way, and in attracting many clients who want you to take responsibility for them, who blame you and make you ‘wrong’.

3. Not trusting, hearing and following your own energy, your gut knowing and your inner yearnings.

This shows up as ‘squelching’ your desires, believing that it’s ‘all work and no play’ and failing to act on your inner leanings towards a certain place, experience, or mentor- or even outfit or opportunity.Often the root cause of this is overly harsh criticism of yourself and a critical inner monologue that starves you of self love, support and acceptance.

It’s Probably NOT Your Fault

Before I share how to cleanse criticism from your life and overcome these fears, I want to remind you why we criticise…

Why Do We Criticize?

We criticize because we somehow believed it was helpful. Our parents, teachers, brothers, sisters, even friends have been on the giving and receiving end of criticism. We thought that pointing out what was wrong with someone or the World in our eyes would make them ‘better’ – and we included ourselves in this.

This ‘pocket full of criticism’ has been as intrinsic to our upbringing as a glass of milk… You need only to sit in a family restaurant to hear how pervasive this ‘making wrong’ is and how deep rooted in our society’s vocabulary and values it goes “Mia, sit down you’ll fall”… “Stop slouching you look awful”… “Sit properly at the table” … “Well you haven’t done a very good job of eating your lunch, why aren’t you enjoying what I got for you?”  “I paid for that, it’s ungrateful not to finish your meal…some children have nothing…” “Shame on you…” etc etc )

So how do you get out of the debilitating cycle of criticism and begin to move forward freely?

The Answer?

You have to cut criticism out of your life completely.

Yep, you have to go criticism cold turkey. Criticism is an addiction, a toxic habit.

There is only one way to break an addiction- make the decision and eradicate it completely from your life.
You must refuse to criticize yourself or others and bite your tongue when the temptation or craving arises,

Here are some ideas how you can cut criticism out of your life and enjoy more power, freedom and joy from your life and creativity:

• Start a new habit of finding things you like and appreciate about yourself and others
• Learn to say ‘thankyou’ when you receive a compliment instead of deflecting or feeling guilty.
• Do not put yourself or others down.
• Do not read cheap and nasty little magazines full of gossip, judgement and tittle tattle.
• Listen to inspirational audios and feel good music…
• Start seeing everything as perfect. All is well. In the eyes of the Divine everything is as it should be. There is no need to change, heal, fix anything, nothing and no one is broken.
• See the beauty in everything and everyone and appreciate what works in your life and your abilities….

After a 21 day criticism cleanse your system, body, work and mindset will thank you for it- and you’ll probably even notice a rise in your energy levels and finances too!
Let me know your thoughts and feelings on this?

I’d love to hear your experiences or ideas on how you deal with criticism from your self or others? Which of these ideas can you apply?

I hear it all the time- “You make it look so easy”, “stuff just seems to fall in your lap”, “it will work out for you, it always does”- (and some who just say – You are such a lucky b**ch!)

Friends, family, clients they all comment and sometimes they say ‘How do you do it?’

In the last few years I have travelled to South America several times to the Andes mountains and the Amazon jungle, been to Hawaii and swam with wild dolphin, visited Africa and climbed Mt Kilimanjaro, (and I also took my father as a gift for his retirement), spent time in Paris, Cyprus, Napa Valley, LA, Arizona, Buenos Aires,Vegas, Utah, New York City, Morocco, Ireland and bonnie England.

Here's me in labour (!) in Ecuador, South America

So I guess you could say I love to  travel . What is confusing to people though is how I have done this whilst building and maintaining a 6 figure business where my ideal clients come to me and I get plenty of free time to do whatever I like and to enjoy being a mama, and pursue my passions like playing with my son and exploring, photography, health and yoga.

It’s not by accident. It’s not random chance. A lucky coconut did not hit me on the head. It is what I have termed the use of ‘manifestation technology’. Technology that you can learn. Technology that works every time.

I’m so excited to be sharing some of my most recent manifestation technology with you all on the free call coming up this monday.

You are invited to Join us!

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Check out what one of my co-hosts and fellow mama of a 10 month old, Rose Cole has to share about this exciting opportunity to join us live and get the juice!

Love and Blessings