Hey there, I made this video for you if there’s something you need to do – like write a blog post, make some sales in your heart based business, speak on a stage, promote something you have created or basically need to ‘show up’ but have huge fears and can’t seem to quieten the negativity that stops you shining.
I share with you my simple tip to how I personally get out of my own way when it comes to doing what I love…
So what do you think? Was this useful for you and can you apply it right now? What do you feel inspired to do, be or create that maybe you have been running from? And what tips do you have to get out of your own way? Let us know in the comments below. Thanks for Sharing.
After my 24 hour ‘vacation’ this weekend I returned home to my life, my baby and my business with fresh eyes, new inspirations and clarity, and even deeper love and appreciation for the gifts I have, plus some insight into what I need to change or where I need to grow.
As entrepreneurs, and as women, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of excuses “I don’t have time”, “I can’t afford it”; or other fears that literally ruin the quality of life we enjoy and eat away at our desires.
To make choices from what our ego wants or thinks is ‘safe’ rather than what is in our highest good is one way we sabotage when we slip into lack thinking. Our ego wants us to avoid the discomfort that can come from saying YES to ourselves and trusting the higher purpose behind our desires, and so we tell ourselves it’s impossible and ‘control’ rather than allow life to unfold perfectly for us…
As women, saying YES creates an alchemy, a powerful charge that radiates within us and can inspire others to live their own version of a ‘Yes Life’.
An aware life, a conscious path is not the easy option. Your ego would much prefer you to just stay ‘safe’ and stick to what you know, and yet if your heart and soul crave more fun, more honesty, deeper trust or anything else, listen, take notice and breathe deeply as you unfold the power of your ability to co-create with Life in ever enchanting and magical ways!
Your desires may lead you places you thought you daren’t ever go to- (And trust me I have done the back and forth with my self more times than I care to remember)
Take a moment now and write down 3 desires you would like fulfilled by the end of the year, and give thanks for them being so…. Keep me posted on how this works out for you!
A special reminder that our Ecuador journey is coming around again- November 25- 2nd December. Is it something you’d love to do but have been holding back on? Check out the page at www.katharinedever.com/ecuador and please contact us at email@example.com if you’d like to set up a time to talk about it and get your questions answered.
Everything in London is gearing up for hosting the Olympic games this summer. The other day I was coaching a client before a significant opportunity in her business to help her prepare. At this event she would up-level her income, visibility and credibility and self expression, and just like an olympic athlete she needed to be in the right ‘space’ to be on her A game that day.
The catch is that when an occasion like that arises if we are not highly conscious and self aware we can easily fall into what Gay Hendricks in The Big Leap calls our ‘Upper Limit’ Problems (ULPs). Challenges and situations we subconsciously create from our small self, that part of us which is trapped by fear, scared stiff of failing or succeeding and tells us we are not enough or we don’t have enough. It’s really important to not ignore this but to embrace it as part of the process, and to follow these 5 tips to make sure it doesn’t throw you off the path:
Use An Affirmation.
It may sound woo woo but without a positive mantra or phrase to get you off banging the drum of your fears its hard to get out of the stickiness and overwhelm of your ULPs. I have seen ULPS manifest for people – myself included- in eye wateringly ‘real’ and terrifying ways i.e.- Natural disasters, rows with partners, a sudden shock or disaster – financial/physical/emotional, children or themselves getting ill, family drama, technology meltdowns, household problems- leaky plumbing etc…
When this stuff happens you need to realise its a symptom of your ego keeping you small and sabotaging your dreams. Do what it takes to stay focussed on your outcome and state your affirmation to the universe. Examples could be:
I expand with Love, Success and Abundance everyday as I inspire others to do the same
All is well, only good can come of this
I am a powerful creator and everything is happening for my highest good.
Consume High-Vibe Foods, Beverages and Thoughts.
In the run up to your special occasion watch out for energy vampires including anything, anyone or any thoughts that make you slump and descend into your lower self. Keep your energy high with visualisations, fresh air, exercise and a fresh diet including superfoods, raw foods and live green alkalising smoothies and juices.
Feel you feelings:
Don’t ignore the fears and doubts but embrace them, holding yourself with compassion and moving forward with fearless faith none the less. It can even help to write them down- and examine exactly what is going on and where they come from- better the devil you know! You may find these illusions stem from a past memory with is no longer serving you and it is time to let go.
Ask the angels
Call upon invisible helpers for confidence and support.
Work with a flower essence such as mimulus or rescue remedy to help overcome your fears of being in the spotlight.
Life here lately has been pretty messy as Ludo gets to grips with food. In the beginning I was wary of letting him get stuck in, worrying about all the mess it would make. But I soon realised if he is going to learn and master the process of eating and putting food in his mouth it’s going to be a journey- and a messy one at least to begin with. So, in my infinite wisdom I gave him a bowl of pasta with sauce….
I once had a mentor who when I went to her bemoaning another mess in my life where I had failed to set or stand by my boundaries, or had been less than graceful, or screwed up – again would calmly tell me- “It’s always awkward before it is elegant.”
This phrase gave me the courage, compassion and patience with myself to take a deep breath and do my best to clean up the mess, forgive myself and continue to learn and grow, despite my discomfort.
Watching little Ludo so innocently and keenly get to grips with the basics of life:- moving, talking, eating: is so heartening and encouraging.
He gets frustrated, needs to take breaks, needs encouragement and reassurance and has to practice until he gets it, but there is no doubt that he will eat, walk, run and speak, and there is no doubt that tomorrow is a new day with new opportunities for him to grow, learn and develop.
It makes me wonder- What if we could keep this stance all through our lives? That no matter how many times we ‘fail’ or make a mess in our relationships, wellbeing, businesses or finances we can simply take it as experience, look to tomorrow, enjoy the present and without shame, quitting, or self-loathing we keep trying until we get the breakthrough.
It reminds me of a favourite quote of mine:
“You have to fail your way to success”.
So I hope little Ludo and his messy eating will inspire you to be willing to fail and try something new today and be willing to go through life’s little messes knowing that you are one step closer to your desires.
When BIG opportunities come around that would make us stare into the abyss and face our biggest fear, we find a way to get ourselves off the hook…..
There are 4 magic words we use anytime we are scared as an ‘easy’ way out….
I Can’t Afford It
When we are scared to say YES to who we know we are, when we fear what others will think or say, when we resist our path, this is the song we start singing…. and we cut ourselves off from our good and limit God/the Universe to give us the resources to create what we say we want to manifest. I’m going to give you 4 steps to quickly create the cash you need to Get Your Gifts Out and invest in anything you want.
What we are really saying is:
‘I am scared’
When we are scared “I can’t afford it” is the easiest and most ‘don’t call me on my sh*t’ excuse in the book. But it’s patently absurd for any of us to say…We always find the money for what we consider a need.
If you are blessed with a roof over your head, money in the bank and in your wallet and a little extra in a dish somewhere, and resources like technology at your fingertips you are in the top 8% of the World’s wealthy.
Note to self: When I started out I didn’t invest in myself because I could afford it. In fact, my payment for the deposit on one of my early mentoring groups bounced and my mentor’s team called me to find out what was going on.
The amount was just £100.00! I said “Just give me a week, I will find a way!”
And I did find a way, because I had decided and committed. I sold stuff on ebay, I cleared my money clutter, I started to get serious about my business- and money started showing up and flowing in. Weird stuff happened, like I received a tax rebate and won some money on premium bonds! But there were also distractions and fears that came up- you need to be on the look out for that and just stay foccussed! My good did come in…just in time…
But only after I said yes and committed.
So this is the secret- You don’t ever say yes because you can afford it, you say yes to become the person who can afford it. Even when it’s scary.
So what are the tools you need?
The tools for my art -of life and business transformation was advancing my self-realisation and experience by receiving mentoring. For you, it might be something else that you know you need- a piece of equipment like a new laptop that is faster and more advanced, a certain lens to take the photos you desire, a deeper intensive to deepen your shamanic work.
Whatever it is, if you are committed you will find a way.
Here are 4 simple secrets that can help you:
Get Specific - Write the exact amount you want by when and write it as if it has already manifested: I am so happy and grateful that I now have £5,000.00 by April 1st 2012.HINT: I write the desired outcome 15 times every day on A4 paper and do it almost like a visualisation of inscribing my desire into energetic matter
Get Connected: Refuse to allow the thinking that you ‘can’t’ have what you want or get what you need. Reprogram this thought with powerful affirmations and when you say them daily put your body heart and soul into- by getting into it and moving, singing, really feeling the affirmation as you say it. Take time each day for your wealth reading, affirmations and connection (prayer /meditation/walks in nature etc) So you can receive the guidance with the aligned action you need to take.
Get Strategic: Write a list of all the ways you can make money, people who owe you money, might lend you the money or where you have money ‘stuck’ and not working for you. Work through your list- circle the top 3 and I bet you will have the amount you desire before you get to the end of the list.
Get Focussed: You will need all your focus, energy and mastery for this, especially if its a short time frame- so turn off the box, drown out the noise and negativity, eat well, take daily MASSIVE action and have a pivotal phrase, person or text that you can turn towhen the inevitable ‘Upper Limit’ symptoms start showing up. This can trigger a kind of healing crisis, when suddenly you receive bills and dramas ‘pop’ that have been bubbling under the surface but if you just work through it , stay focussed, and clean it all up knowing you are creating it- you will come out the other side more in you power and realising you can do anything you set your mind to!
So when people say to me they don’t have the money to do what they want I never see that as an obstacle. I don’t believe in lack. I never had £20,000.00 in my pocket just sitting there whist I thought- ‘hmmmm….what should I do with this? I know- Why don’t I do a coaching program? ‘
The money showed up after I had made the decision to do whatever it was that I really wanted to do and then followed the steps above.
Working with the miraculous takes courage, and no one said this path would be easy.
There are times when you will wish it was.
There are times when you will wonder why you can’t just ‘be normal’.
If your destiny is calling you, no matter how quietly, you will find it impossible to ignore- whether its telling you to leave the security of a job, start a foundation, travel the World, or join a coaching program….
So don’t let money or your story around the lack of money come between you and your destiny.
Ultimately its not money but listening to your deep intuition, saying YES to YOU and giving the gift that you and only you are here to give- that will be the most valuable to you and the World.
A few months ago I had this dream that I would give birth in a part of the World that I felt warm, supported and connected to Mother Earth.
My mother asked me “Are you giving birth in Bath hospital or Bristol hospital?” I asked my mum “Mummy, If you could give birth in any way you wanted, anywhere in the World what would be your dream?”
She laughed at me and looked a bit confused, rolled her eyes and I could see the familiar expression of exasperation cross her face. Followed by a resigned ‘Ok Katharine…’
But despite the reactions that made me doubt myself, somewhere deep inside me this felt possible…it became my newest miracle project, my new fascinating question. I had asked myself other empowering questions in the past that had allowed me to achieve my dreams- like “How can I appreciate my gifts and share them with others in fun and exciting ways?” “How good can I let it get” “What would I do/Who would I be if I had no fear?”
I asked my baby in meditation- Where do you want to be born? How do you want to enter the Earth, and where?
Katharine Dever Is an intuitive business mentor to women around the world helping them to sell and market services in a feminine way, overcome fears and doubts and make a living from their gifts, to live a life of their dreams. More>>