You have a personal, direct connection to Source Energy.
Whether you call it God, The Universe, the Cosmos, Your Higher Self or The Higher Power, there is a bigger ‘You’, that is infinitely wise, powerful and benevolent.
When you are ‘in your power’ life goes well. Doors open. Synchronicity abounds. Your intuition is on point, and you feel a sense of peace and harmony.
However, if this connection is not nurtured and if we are not conscious, present and aware of how we feel then all too easily this connection can be broken, especially when we are just learning to trust it to direct our lives.
We can find ourselves suddenly feeling disconnected, disillusioned, scared, and lost.
From here we are easily triggered, we slip into compulsive behaviours, negative patterns or destructive tendencies and we find it hard to hear our inner voice.
In short – we lose our selves.
Everyone has a different ‘kryptonite’ that can trigger this kind of disconnection. Take a moment to consider…. what is yours?
Hope you are having a great day.
I’m in France taking a few days away to enjoy some fine food, lots of rest, the great outdoors, a private pool and hopefully some sunshine.
After my event this weekend I had itchy feet and decided to fly away for a few days.
It was so liberating landing at La Rochelle airport at 9am on a Monday morning when most folks are starting work!
Having created that level of freedom in my life to say YES to my spirit and follow my guidance I became very reflective upon my journey over the last 2 years….
…I was thinking how much life has changed since I gave up on struggling through it.
Are you familiar with struggle?
Here’s the kicker with struggle.
Ever held yourself back out of fear that you did not have enough time/ energy/ money?
Ever postponed your dreams until ‘the right time’
Me too, somehow, even with what I know and teach I found myself getting lost in the stories and limitations about what is and isn’t possible.
Here is what happened to me recently
Get Your Gift Out Event …Cancelled
…You Are Invited
I am resurrecting this event, and with it my dreams. Do you have a dream and a gift inside you that you need to breathe some new life into?
Today I am taking a stand to help you believe in the power and beauty of your dreams
I let my fear hold me back and I contracted and as a result muddied the waters with this event. I am going to tell the whole story at the event itself, and I am going to do the event on the weekend as planned originally. I apologise for the confusion and I am going to trust that those who are meant to be there will be.
I know that for me the great insight has been how easily we can let our dreams slip away when we start listening to the voice of fear telling us ‘we’ve taken on too much’, ‘there is not enough of whatever’ or ‘it is not possible.’
I am taking a stand for my dreams, how about joining me and taking a stand for yours too?
Please comment below if you have thoughts or stories to share- is there anywhere in your life where you have been postponing your dreams and ‘waiting’ …Time to stop postponing and live it now…Love to you all and deep appreciation for your understanding xxx
To join me on this dream revolution, click here for a life changing opportunity.
I don’t mean giving up entirely, I just mean giving up on your business?
Have you ever had one of those soul searching periods, where you enter into deep doubt and begin to question everything you do?
I have noticed in myself and in others that I work with that before we are about to go to a whole new level we sometimes find ourselves feeling anxious, insecure and uncertain. The fear can throw our whole lives into chaos, I have seen it show up in all manner of ways- from practical problems like plumbing, heating or telecommunications shutting down, to emotional upsets or physical ailments- or all at once!
We ask ourselves
- Am I mad/ Is this real?
- Am I cut out for this/ Who am I kidding/ What is this really about?
- Is this what I really want to do and is it worth doing?
- Am I in integrity/Is this authentically me? If not, what is?
And we tell ourselves
- I don’t need this, I should be doing X,Y,Z..Or “having a job is far easier”
- I don’t have to do this, I have a supportive partner/trust fund/savings/resources so I can just walk away and leave all this behind?
- I don’t want to grow and stretch, I just want to be comfortable and have a nice, easy life
- I don’t know what I want.
And we sometimes start to indulge in self- defeating and soul sapping behaviours
- Excessive eating/drinking/TV watching (or take your pick of mind altering/damaging behaviours)
- Moaning, bitching, complaining, judging, defending/attacking, justifying
- Accidentally’ missing our appointments, or avoiding ourselves (journalling etc), our Source (meditation etc) our support and people/habits that keep us on our ‘A’ game (coaching, exercise, mentors etc).
And we generally feel like curling up in a ball and disappearing.
Have you ever been through a time like that?
Me too. And when I am in it, everything seems SO REAL. I really can’t handle the dishwasher breaking, I really did think the appointment was an hour later, I really didn’t feel like meditating. I didn’t want to meditate or journal. I had no time for exercising, and ….it was only a few TV programs- where is the harm in that?
Before we know it we are feeling more off track and more off purpose and cut off from our joy and passion than ever.
So what is that all about?
For most women entrepreneurs we started a business from a genuine desire to serve and make a difference, whilst making a living in a way we love and creating a lifestyle we had always dreamed of for ourselves and our families.
But when we hit a big growing spurt or it is time to take a leap of faith in to our greatness we can withdraw, tense up, and ‘wiggle out’. We want to get ‘off the hook’. We doubt ourselves, and that makes us mistrust everyone and everything around us and we don’t know what or who to believe.
And it really is tricky.
As creators of our own experience there really are times where ‘reality’ can seem completely untrustworthy, and can change on a whim, depending on our perspective and state of mind. £100,000.00 Can seem like a fortune one day, and a snip the next. A year can feel like a long time to wait for something but a short time if we knew that was all we had left.
So where do we get our steadiness, our certainty if we are relying on something outside of us to prove something and give us a sense of safety?
How do we confidently move through the fear barrier if we are looking around waiting for our external environment to reassure us or another person to tell us we are ok and we are enough?
The truth is we don’t, we can’t. The only pace we can get this reassurance and deep certainty is from a place within that is steady, constant, loving and always there for us. We must decide that we are worthy enough, ready enough, good enough, qualified enough and then just give it our best shot.
These periods of doubt, questioning and disorientation are part of the path, but they are healthy opportunities for us to assess what is working and where our priorities are. The mistake is to try and get other people’s approval or advice, or taking acton to block out our uneasy feeling, before listening to our own wisdom. This will only make us more scattered and more distrustful and wary. The way through is THROUGH…We can’t run from ourselves or our purpose, the more we deny it or ignore it, the more we are captive.
No matter how big or scary it can seem, and no matter how much drama we can create to distract ourselves from it, ultimately fear is False Evidence Appearing Real, and not bigger than Love. Love and a courageous heart will give you the power to embrace your fears and release your resistance.
So if you have been ‘spinning’ lately here’s my suggestion:
Don’t ‘try’ and do anything, don’t talk to everyone about how tough it is right now (even though it is)
Just give yourself 24 hours or so without ‘doing’ and spend some time just to yourself, to walk, pray, meditate, journal, take a bath or have a treatment and ‘switch off’. Be with your fear and embrace it, and be with the way things are. Breathe your way through it.
Trust that by giving yourself this time of grace you will come back with more clarity and power to take your next steps (and you will avoid the costly mistakes you can make when you are running on empty just going through the motions without conscious co-creation )
Appreciate all the progress you have made, and all the good you have received and the many gifts and resources you have. If you feel like it start making a list or keeping and ‘appreciation journal.’ Be sure to include your self!
When I have one of these ‘bumps’ I usually find there is something great on the other side, so hang tough and know that you are so loved and it’s safe to be you.
Sending lots of love, and blessings- especially to anyone who is in one of these times right now I would love to hear from you about your experience of these times, and how you made it through.
Affirmation to move through fear into faith:-
I am divinely led, I follow the right fork in the road. God makes a way where there is no way.
Do you want to make more money, live freely and easily, create what you really want to in the World and live a big life? Then you will probably have to over come some core fears standing between you and your highest calling and true BIG vision.
In today’s article I want to help you to do just that, and to remind you of a great quote that I use when I get scared:
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
These are 3 fears that I see most often in my clients- and often in myself too. (I get scared all the time too! The first time I got a negative comment on my blog I cried for days! )
See if you can recognize if any of these fears might be holding you back and let us know if this helps you!
AS an ‘Indigo’ or big hearted creative type and entrepreneur I like to move fast, and so when I notice one of these suckers draining my energy and cowboying my creative space by consuming my mind with worry I look the tiger in the eye and deal with it the best I can.
Sometimes I get some help from a friend or coach, or from prayer and meditation.
I recommend that you do too so you can quickly keep your upward spiral spinning and not get stuck! If you’d like to find out more about working with me then check out the resources section below, and in the meantime I have a few secrets to share so that you can overcome those limiting fears and get cracking with your dreams and heart’s desires instead!
1.The Fear Of Making A Decision.
( Looks Like- Confusion, Lack of Clarity, Time Wasting, Bright-Shiny-Object-Syndrome, s-t-u-c-k)
Oftentimes in life and business we have to decide upon a course of action, a person to hire or fire, an investment, a risk, and who we want to work with and what we are about. A decision is the hinges of your destiny, so it’s understandable that we can get all wound up over the way forward, but here’s the truth- there are no real ‘wrong’ decisions. You can fly London to Tokyo and have only been on track 95% of the journey and only the pilot would notice. So chill out a bit It’s not so serious. This is what I remind myself of when I get all terrified and frozen up.
Way Through- Relax. Smile. Cast the dice, flip a coin, it doesn’t matter! There is an older, wiser, far reaching part of you that knows. Sometimes if you flip a coin and get the answer you didn’t want to get then you know by contrast what you really wanted! If you make a decision and don’t like the consequences then you put it down to experience, brush yourself off, take the lesson and move on. It’s okay! Accept that making tough decisions is part of life and the better you get at it the better your life will be!
2. The Fear Of Messing Up/ Failing/ Being a Let Down To Self &/or Others
(Looks Like- Paralysis, Self-Sabotage, Not Making A Start, Not Committing, Hiding)
Think about the worst case scenario. Imagine it in your mind or write it if you like. Confront the tape that you don’t want to play, and play it. Let yourself feel that shame, ridicule, rejection or whatever it is that terrifies you the most- you don’t have to stay there long. Let the emotion consume you for just a minute or two so that you really get the experience of what you don’t want to feel.( You have to be counter-phobic in business, and get that tiger by the tail!) Once you have allowed that in it has less power over you.
Way Through: Write down what you would do if it all went wrong and you failed spectacularly. This will help you to see that its really not so bad and apart from a major ego bruising you’d be okay and there are people and places to turn to if your worst nightmare ever came true- (the likelihood is that it won’t!) What is far more likely is that once you have dealt with what was getting your way you will have the energy, commitment and passion to go for your dreams, so put your focus there and go after what you want!
3. The Fear Of Fear Itself
(Looks Like- Denial, Superiority Complex, Scattered Energy, Closed Mind/Saying “I know” but not having the experience wanted, Inability to receive guidance, Resources and Love)
When we fear fear itself we refuse to even look for long enough to see what our problem is. We are so mistrusting and scared that we are on the run from ourselves and won’t allow time for ourselves to see where we are headed because we are running blind. If we are in this space we can’t see the bigger picture and our fears become so real to us that we mistake them for reality. We are afraid of fear so we feel like we need to defend it or cover it up.
Way Through. Breathe. Take time for yourself and connection with your Higher Power- whatever that means for you. Ask for help. Forgive yourself and anyone you need to forgive and let go of the past. Admit you are scared; and know that it’s okay to be. Feel the fear…And you know what comes next
Are you ready for your quantum leap? Now is the time for bold leaps of faith and that those willing to take risks are being rewarded with greater joy, fulfilment and satisfaction- as well as increased financial prosperity!
I know this because I have done it for myself and took my huge leap of faith last year- the result were astounding for people around me, but in my heart I had always known I was born for this but didn’t know how to get there.. So if you’re ready for your big breakthrough from where you are to where your meant to be, then let me help you! I’ve created a hoiday special just for you: