Wacky Bad Asses
There are few people on the planet I have more fun with than this wild child, bestselling author Jen Sincero.
Today I am excited to share with you an excerpt from Jen’s new book- “” You Are A Badass, Now Start Acting Like One“ Published by Running Press. It will make you feel like you can do anything…And put a smile on your face!
Chapter 27: BEAM ME UP, SCOTTY
Nothing is impossible, the word itself says “I’m possible.”
—Audrey Hepburn; actress, icon, fabulist
My grandmother on my mother’s side lived to be one hundred years
old. Nana was as WASPy as they make ’em: prissy, reserved, able to
avoid confrontation with the skilled precision of an F-16 pilot. For as
long as I can remember, she always looked exactly the same. She was
eternally adorned in a cardigan, pinned together at the top by an
antique broach, her pink lipstick and sparkly brown eyes shining
through a face-full of wrinkles that erupted in a series of “oh dears”
every time she laughed.
In her long lifetime, Nana witnessed the birthing of such pivotal human
achievements as the phone, the car, the TV, human flight, the
computer, the internet and rock and roll.
The two things that blew her mind the most, however, were putting
a man on the moon and the soda dispensers at McDonalds. She’d
stand there watching, gripped by disbelief, as an employee placed a
cup, small, medium or large, beneath a spout, pushed a button and
walked away, leaving the machine to fill it up the perfect, proper
amount. “How does it know where to stop?” Nana would shake her
head, mortified, “How does it know ?!”
After we figured out how to clone a sheep, she pretty much threw
in the towel on ever questioning anything again.
One day my family took her out for lunch to a restaurant on the
top floor of some giant hotel. When we got into the elevator, someone
accidentally pushed the button for the floor we were already on the
moment the doors closed, making them open right back up again.
Thinking we’d just gone up forty-five-flights in a split second, we
watched my sweet little grandmother exit the elevator, nervously patting
her hair as she wandered down the hallway muttering to herself,
I want to sign off here by encouraging you to pursue your dreams
with the same belief that anything is possible as a little old lady in
knee-high stockings and sensible heels who was born in 1903 and
lived through the most technologically flabbergasting century to date.
Whatever you desire to do with your precious life—write jokes or
rock out or start a business or learn to speak Greek or quit your job
or raise a bunch of kids or fall in love or lose your flab or open
orphanages around the world or direct movies or save dolphins or
make millions or live in a canyon in a loincloth—believe that it’s possible.
And that it’s available to you. And that you deserve to
Give yourself the permission and the means (yes, this includes the
money), to be who you are REGARDLESS OF WHAT ANYBODY
ELSE THINKS OR BELIEVES IS POSSIBLE. Do not deny yourself
the life you want to live because you’re worried you’re not good
enough or that you’ll be judged or that it’s too risky, because who does
that benefit? No one, that’s who. When you live your life doing the
things that turn you on, that you’re good at, that bring you joy, that
make you shove stuff in people’s faces and scream, “check this out!!!”
you walk around so lit up that you shoot sunbeams out of yer eyeballs.
Which automatically lights up the world around you. Which is precisely
why you are here: to shine your big-ass ball of fire onto this
world of ours. A world that literally depends upon light to survive.
You are powerful. You are loved. You are surrounded by miracles.
Believe, really believe that what you desire is here and available to
you. And you can have it all.
You are a badass.
Published by Running Press – Find out more >> http://JenSincero.com/buy-badass-book/
If you want to leave a comment I would love to know what crazy badass thing you want to do with your life and haven’t yet dared to do!
The other day I was lying on my bed with my fiance, and I was shuffling a deck of mermaids and dolphin Oracle cards.
I was sharing with my fiance about how the cards help me move towards my higher self and he was looking at me a bit quizzically. He is really open and supportive and has a ‘whatever works’ kind of attitude, although he and I are very different in how we relate to the Divine he seems to like all my little ‘crazy ways’. Especially as he is never forced to partake in them (I think a Trance Dance on my Warrior Goddess retreat might be a few steps too far!)
Anyway, we were talking and laughing and as I spread out the cards I asked him if he would like to pick one, which he did. At the same time I picked one too- and I got:
‘Simplify Your Life’
I was a little bit taken aback because my lower self felt a bit of wounded pride and wanted to defend my inner hoarder. I was immediately thinking “I don’t have that much ‘stuff’, everything I have I use and need. As I sat there and asked if that was true I quickly realised it wasn’t and so I began to sort through my wardrobe there and then…
(My poor fiance was subjected to a rather ridiculous fashion show that involved clothes I’ve had since I was a teenager)
It was clearly time for me to let go.
Another birthday and a new stage of life- I got engaged and have a baby on the way so I realised the card I pulled was on the money.
Despite having worked hard only wealth consciousness over the years and opening the doors of abundance I realised there are still parts of me that are fearful of ‘letting go’. The shirt that I wore when I was 15 no longer looks good or suite me at all, so why did I struggle to put it in the charity shop box? (which was overflowing!) What was I really holding onto?
I realised a big part of letting go of the past was being present and appreciating all the good things happening right now.
I used this affirmation as I sorted and continue sorting drawers, cupboards, wardrobes, email (I was keeping drafts from 2 years ago-Why?!)- and then eventually my files on my PC!
I share it with you incase it helps and you like me want to free up space for the new to enter and release that which you no longer use or need:
“I’m enough I have enough and its only change. I let go with love as I bless my past, adore my present and honour my happy future”
You are probably having a few days of downtime before revving up again with your life/business in 2011 and I know how easy it is to want to switch off completely and enjoy the family but a little bit of intention work and making leaps of faith at this time can go a HUGE distance to achieving your heart’s desires in the coming year.
Last year I did this process from my childhood bedroom. This year I am doing it from a 1.4 million pound beautiful home. I am sharing that with you so you can see what is possible and learn to trust the process I am about to share with you. It may seem simple, and short- but it’s one of my secrets to success!
Get your journal and a pen and go ahead doing this exercise right now- it won’t take long and will reward you a million times over!
Step 1- What do you desire? What is it you want? Get Clear.
Step 2 – Why do you want this- Spell it out
Step 3 – Put it out there- Sit with this prayer and request, ASK for help and guidance from Source.
Step 4 – Allow- Sit with the desire- be pregnant with it and feel good. Allow yourself to see it, maybe create a vision board, get excited- it is coming!
Step 5 – Trust – (HINT: this is where most people stop!) Your ego will try to sabotage you at this point, ignore that and stay expectant but unattached. (I could write a whole book on this but am trying to keep it short! Basically- get a feeling of ‘having’ in your bones and trust/know that your desires are being fulfilled the moment you give yourself permission to have them- despite outside circumstances!)
Step 6- Receive & Act- You will hear guidance, see signs, feel nudges or sniff the scent of your next move- let yourself receive this intuition and follow it! You need to ACT if you want to ATTRACT!
Need some help with manifesting, overcoming your desires and building a business the way you want to- aligning you with your purpose whilst freeing you up to do the things you want- like travel, spend more time with family or get that book written?
Then why not hire a mentor who can support you tangibly and intangibly in all that and more? I am currently taking applications of people who would like to mentor with me privately or in a group in 2011. If that is you please email me on firstname.lastname@example.org
Sometimes, when I go to a big event I notice this strange feeling of what I can only call desparation. there is a shadow neediness in the air- a sense of fear, struggle and grief. I call it the drag.
The ‘drag’ is what pulls you under, takes you away from yourself and tumbles you around and around until you no longer know which way is up. When you are in the drag you know about it, because you find yourself clutching at straws, chasing the next buck, changing your mind and reversing decisions (ouch for your money karma) and tearing around working lots but not ever really making progress. ‘The drag’ is literally when you are out of alignement with yourself, and swimming against the tide- it’s exhausting and miserable with no relent!
‘The Flow’ however is an altogether different expereince. In the flow you just need to let go and enjoy the ride.
The right people show up at the right time, coincidences abound, you feel safe and happy and the right words seem to flow from you, your energy feels high and you vibrate at a frequency attuned to the breath of life- with joy and inspiration. When you step into the flow you allow your life to float downstream. You make time for God, for Source and you sit in the sun of your own being. you make decisions from your inner knowing and you don’t look back, knowing that you are the powerful creator of your own life and standing up for what you know and believe.
So how do we step in to that magical flow? Well, it’s really all about your inner alignment. i am constantly telling my clients that success is an inner game. You need to have your ducks in a row internally and not shy away from the deep work that comes hand in hand with your wake up call to be all you can be. the deep work can sometimes be a bit yucky and feel very uncomfortable, but inside all of us is just a lonely, wounded child who want and needs to be loved and loving. So here are 3 quick tips to help you step into your very own flow:
1. Listen. Put simply if you are in ‘the drag’ you’re ignoring your inner voice and looking outside yourself for answers, and if you are in the flow you make time to honour and trust your own feelings and desires and impulses without making yourself wrong.
2. Stop. If you know you are in ‘the drag’ the only way to get out is to simply stop what you are doing. literally stop everything. Make some time and space to step back and really look at what’s not working. Some thing needs to change- what is it?
3. Ask. The consequences of being in the drag can be pretty murky and dark, we might be in a right old mess and really need some help to tidy it up. Get support and ask for help, you can’t do it all alone, so ask your seen and unseen supporters to help you see your path and move back into that space of grace where you can fly again. It’s ok, you can do it.
You will need- pen, paper, calendar, day book/timetable, list of all your upcoming dates/projects
Plot your calendar with what you know you are committed to for the year in pen
eg. Kilimanjaro climb, Isle of Wight Festival, Ellie’s Wedding
Then take your pencil and plot what you would like to do
eg. courses, training, trips, my own event
Make sure to mark out time off and holidays at the beginning of the year, you don’t have to know yet what you will do in that down time, just that it is marked out for you now.
Set your intentions and some bold goals about what 2010 is about for you.
KEY POINT: *Decide and commit to working in your Gift Zone*
Your Gift zone is the area where you use your unique talents, passions and experience to serve yourself and others by sharing yourself, love and time.
Ask yourself…”Who do I want to help most this year and why do I want to help them?”
Be very specific, and have a why that makes you totally excited and uplifted!
Value your time above all else- your time IS your life.
With that in mind list below some things you hate doing, stuff that wears you out, drains you, isn’t in your strengths at all or plain bores you -
Chasing clients for payments
Techy stuff- creating websites and adding shopping cart
Post and errands etc
You can outsource to a VA, who can handle admin,
A web technician- to set up your sites and payment gateways,
Writers if that isn’t your thing (try www.elance.com)
Find a local cleaner/house help
Along with a local student who wants to make a few extra pounds a week and will walk your dog or take stuff to the post office, do shopping, take in dry cleaning etc- anything you don’t love to do that is not best use of your time.
(Hint- Do you notice any feeling coming up here? resentment, guilt, shame, disbelief?If so, Can you identify it, feel it and ‘go into it’- you may need to momentarily exaggerate it to move through it- so if you feel guilt about not doing everything or hiring help- recognize and honour that feeling, and then ask yourself I you’d be willing to let that go if it means that you get to be all you can be. Heaven and Life want to support you in your mission, you are a leader and are allowed to ask for/receive help and support in all ways.)
(- Try posting on college/uni notice boards or on www.gumtree.com/craigslist or hire a PA who can come to your home and just keep on top of all the officey/organisation stuff.)
Live in Your Gift Zone!
****There are people out there who just love to keep things organized and are really in their gift doing that kind of work- let them help you!****
You have to trust that the money you pay them will be re-couped as you work in your gift zone, just do it a step at a time.
Now list stuff you really want to do this year
Everything you can think of! This might include being great at your roles- as a mother, wife, friend, daughter. It might include business goals, humanitarian goals and personal health / lifestyle goals.
Review the list, and anything that is a ‘should’ or makes you feel heavier and not inspired/excited or not from love in your heart- simply cross off. Now ask yourself “What would I really love to do this year?”
Chunk it down to stuff you want to do this month
i.e. Get some more speaking gigs booked
Finalise details for retreats & schedule all clients
Book tickets for USA events & flights
Review applications for Pearl mentorship
Join a yoga group
Now to stuff you want to do this week (based on your monthly targets)
i.e. Find out about broadband in the new house
Book Fengshui consultant to organise & clear space in new house
Book cleaner to come weekly
Book Spa Day
Walk Ogilvy daily
VIP day Newport on Thurs
Share newsletter on Wednesday
Kilimanjoro Charity page launched
Email Lynne Twist about tithing
Finish 2010 planning
Get Ryan to do page and graphics
Send Trish gift & flowers to hospital
Each day you can block your tasks, so you have blocks of time- making your to do list fit into chunks
eg. Calls, Emails, Writing, Coaching, Planning, etc
This means that instead of darting around, a call here, an email there, and a blog post there -you are focusing on repetitive actions – which speeds up your productivity.
You might be working on 2 or 3 different projects, but you’d still do the calls in your calls time block…Make sense?
Think of it like a production line- in terms of grouping like tasks together, so you do all you calls at the same time, even if one is for project A, one is project B and one is the bank or whatever, like tasks go together. You can take an hour on a Sunday or Friday to plan your coming week.
Now look at your working week- decide what times would be best for you to do each of your chunks. Some chunks are daily, others weekly or monthly. Maybe your calls are bi-weekly, your coaching Tuesday and Thursday, your finances Friday, and writing mainly every fortnight~ or whatever.
Some of these tasks, like Email will be daily, but make a boundary by just doing email, say from 2-3 each day instead of it dominating your whole day- you can also have an assistant handle a lot of your email and you just see the stuff they forward to you, and they give you an update frequently.
If you are doing your own email I wouldn’t recommend checking email first thing- use that time for something more creative like writing, sales copy or creating your next product, otherwise you can check email and start your day bogged down and purely responsive and reactive…. rather than channeling your time and energy towards your goals and priorities.
So, look at your to do list and group all the tasks and decide which chunk they are. Now, get your daybook and colour each time block a different colour. Then when it comes to the calls chunk you set your timer for however long you scheduled (I like 90 minutes) and do all your calls without interruptions.
Apply the same method to emails, writing, etc.
If you are thinking of outsourcing and building a good tram around you this year so you can play bigger and be more fully in your purpose then why not Manifest your ideal team with a brain dump of must/must nots for your PA, techy etc.
Finally- have your top wishes for the year written down on a piece of paper by your bed and review them first and last thing. (Big tip!)
Hope this helps- let me know your comments below!
This is my personal result of the exercise here
OK Here goes:
My top achievements of the decade
- Quitting a job I hated & doing my own thing
- Running The Edinburgh Marathon for HOPE for children
- Helpoing to raise $50,000 in 3 days for The Pachamama Alliance
- Quitting drinking & smoking and starting to exercise
- Investing & Believing in myself and my business (despite everyone thinking I was nuts ) BIGGIE
- Connecting, Learning and listening to my higher self, guides and angels & trusting my intuition more each day!
- Helping others to experience true freedom- spiritually, financially, emtionally & physically by helping people with addictions, blocks to abundance, overcoming the fear of living in their gifts & fulfilling their highest vision.
- Increasing my income 10 fold in 3 years doing something I love
- Completing my first book and selling it online
- Showing up as my true self despite sometimes feeling vulnerable or afraid of what others may think
(I just realised how little my degree in formal’ education’ actually meant to me)
Top Lessons of the decade:
- Be grateful for everything
- I’m a spiritual being having a human experience and I create my life
- It’s OK to feel what I feel and know what I know
- Opportunity comes in the disguise of crisis sometimes
- Value yourself & your time- you never get it back
- Nurture yourself and take time for you in silence each day- even for just a few moments
- Fear is part of the journey of the powerful creator
- You don’t have to be perfect to be valuable & to serve
- Share your gifts with love
- Trust God/Life/the Universe to bring you your highest good
- Helped hundreds of people to overcome their addictions and re-purpose their lives to get their gifts out and overcome fear and self-doubt.
- Helped a dying man at the scene of an accident
- Inspired people from all over the globe to live more authentically and follow their dreams
- Raised $8,000 in an hour & $50,000 in 3 days on separate occasions for the Amazon rainforest
- Transformed my life and became more conscious about my personal responsibility to all living things
Things that made my heart sing!
- Backpacking in Australia, Malaysia & Europe solo and with a galpal- discovering about myself, life 7 the Universe
- Meeting people and hearing their stories, seeing their gifts and sharing
- Visiting Equador with lynne & Bill twist and experiencing shamanic healing, ancient all night ceremonies and the unspoilt beauty of being deep in 5 million acres of prime virgin rainforest
- Swimming eye-to-eye with wild dolphins and being in a pod of 80 ish dolphins for over an hour on the solstice of 2009 in Hawaii’s big Island- A life-long dream!
- Signing my emails to my beautiful clients “With love and blessings” (Another dream come true for me!)
3 things i’ll be leaving in the noughties
- ‘Needing’ acceptance, approval or ‘to be liked’
- Holding myself back
- Fear of failure/criticism
My Soul Success Statement is
My version of true soul success is waking up each day and thanking my creator for my life. It’s being able to look in the mirror as I brush my teeth and love myself just the way I am. It’s sharing that love with every other being whether silently in my heart or through the vehicle of my business, expression or presence. Success is being here now, and accepting myself and others without judgement, blame, criticism or fear. Success in my life is being free to be who I am, speak my truth with love, and to give the best of me in all I do. I am success. I am love. I am abundance.