Posted by admin on Nov 9, 2012 in Life Purpose | 0 comments
I was in a funk.
I was feeling jammed up.
I was inexplicably annoyed with everything.
I decided to work at a nearby cafe in the countryside, and sat down to write.
I drank a coffee,
Checked some email.
I tapped my fingers on the table
I moved to sit outside.
I have learnt an incredibly important lesson in my years as a business owner about struggle.
Struggle is a state of being, not doing.
‘Work’ Does not have to be ‘HARD’ as our programming would have us believe.
Most of the actual tasks we need to do to make our businesses run effectively and make money are fairly simple. Easy, even….However, we can choose to experience struggle when we go about them.
We can people please, get distracted, beat around the bush – and prove to ourselves the belief of how hard it really is to achieve our dreams.We can tell ourselves “its so hard” and we don’t have enough of this, that, or the other.
But the truth is success and abundance are natural.
It is our unconscious beliefs, patterns and limitations that hold us up and get in the way of the wellspring and natural flow.So…Back to the story, and back to my sorry state.
I looked around me at the sun glistening on the rolling fields and felt my desire stirring.
How many days had it been since I had walked in nature?
With the nights drawing in and the temperature dropping I had been avoiding taking walks for even 5 minutes- a success habit for me that is crucial to my flow.
Hence my creative constipation, fatigue and general misplaced annoyance at inanimate objects, well meaning human beings, and even my loved ones. Oh yes, my funk was doing its best to contaminate everything around me!
Nature was quietly calling me, outstretched, open, inviting me to smell the earthiness of her soil, taste the freshness of the November air and hear the beautiful song of the birds.
Fortunately, I have learned the antidote to struggle….
I have discovered a secret….The one thing that no matter how dark my despair, how black my mood or how insurmountable a problem seems that can lift me up and out of it…
The one thing I have to completely allow when the going gets tough or when my ‘plan’ is not working…
The one thing I resist the most when I need it the most…
The one thing?
Sweet Surrender. Surrender is not about giving up. It is about letting go.
Letting go of control.
The control that we *think* we need is ironically the biggest obstacle to creating the life waiting for us.
The moment I realized that my inability to be in flow was my inability to surrender I allowed my logical ‘I have lots to do’ ego mind to subside and just started walking and walking, climbing over gates and stiles, picking my way through muddy puddles and thoroughly enjoying breathing and moving my tense body.
I began to unwind and leave all the ‘stuckness’, anxiety and frustration behind.
I know it sounds simple, and it is simple…
…but, how many times are we like the fly trying to escape, bashing our heads against some invisible barrier, whilst the open window is just millimeters away?
In spite of all my breakthroughs, inspite of what I know, what I teach, what I live, every now and then it occurs to me again-
“Ohhhh… I need to ‘do’ the one thing I am not allowing….I need to surrender.”
And when I do, then the passion rises in me again, the words flow, my imaginations soar, my energies rise and this is all reflected in my clarity, profitability, my productivity and my sense of wellbeing.
Surrender is the secret sauce when it comes to living our lives and businesses on purpose…So my question to you today is Have you surrendered? If not, are you willing to be available? Or are you at war with the Divine, insisting on doing it all your way, your plan?
Think about it- God provides everything needed for nature to thrive- the blueprint, the environment, the purpose…wouldn’t it be obvious that as part of nature we are also extended that privilege?
Your birthright and inherent nature is successful and abundant.
You are now and always have been perfect. Yet we push and we strive, and we try and be perfect- thinking if we can just do everything *right* then we will meet with our heart’s desire, not realizing that with every push we push further away from us what we wanted.
Our ego insists it has the answers, it – and it alone- knows the way, and shoves us along it, not wanting us to reflect, to listen, to change…
And yet when we give our soul the space, when we surrender, we remember our power, we inhabit our true frequency of love- and we hear the Divine within us which invites us to trust our desires, accept our destiny, allow our good fortune and receive our knowing.
Surrender frees us. Sometimes we become so fixed on an outcome that we miss out on the beautiful life unfolding around us- to really appreciate our partners, our friends, our beautiful children and the life we *get* to live.
When we let go and connect to our true heart’s desire the Divine plan for us is allowed to unfold.
The Art of Surrender in 3 Simple Steps
- Pay Attention: What is no longer working in your life? What no longer serves you or is working? You know the truth when you are presented with it, and the truth- no matter how much you resist it – will set you free.
- Deepen Your Faith: Offer your struggles to the Divine and move out of the way. Allow God/the Universe to handle it and stop the story of struggle.You need to trust to follow the guidance that you will receive- even if you are scared to take it.
- Love Yourself: Self- love gives you the courage to surrender and have the self-preservation to take the leap of faith. It may seem counter-intuitive but saying yes to yourself shows that you believe you matter and are ready for an improved situation- In the eyes of the Divine you are infinitely valuable and more loved than you can fathom
There is no set way to surrender, just close your eyes and let go.
Posted by admin on Mar 13, 2012 in Higher Calling | 3 comments
AKA: Quit Your Job And Get Your Gifts OUT!
I still remember vividly the day I left employment behind me for good to become self employed, and eventually step into my highest calling as a Spirit-led entrepreneur.
I was working in a glossy PR agency, with high brow clients like Miele, Nicky Clarke and Wella and was desparately trying out the ‘graduate-gets – a life- and- a -job -and- ‘settles down’ thing’
…But I was more unsettled than ever.
I was so bad at my job that I used to hide in the magazine cupboard and pretend to sort out the magazines, I used to get told I did everything wrong- the way I signed off my emails was not formal enough, the way I glued the mood boards was not neat enough, the way I binded the company presentations was not straight enough and the coffee I made was not strong enough.
After years of studying at University, £10′s of thousands invested in my education, here I was making coffee and running around like crazy for a measly £12,000.00 a year.
Is This Really It?
Is this it?? I asked myself every day as I looked around my office…
I’d had so many dreams, so much energy, creativity and potential…But now I felt completely stuck and hopeless.
I was hungry for meaningful, creative work that filled me with joy and paid me well, but where would I find it?
None of my friends were much better off, no one made more than 10k extra than me per year and I was afraid that if I went for another job I would only get more entrenched and never get out.
So I took a nighttime and weekend bar job to make up my money and began to ask people who came in the pub that seemed happy and successful in what they did.
The ones who would come in at unusual times, the ones popping champagne corks- what businesses were they in? What did they do?
The thing they had in common was entrepreneurship.
After my extensive research (pulling pints has been some of my greatest education!) I concluded it was time for me to have a go and set up some kind of business on my own. There was one problem …I was completely terrified and I had no idea on Earth what I could do…
However, I knew that I had to leave this job that was draining me and that I could no longer fake it at work.
I knew I sucked at pretending to be ‘corporate‘ and I had already called in sick with a hangover in my first 2 months because my coping mechanism was to get really drunk at night so I did not have to think about how crappy my life had got.
I woke up, went to work, had ideas and dreams about making some sort of difference and then struggled through piles of papers and email before getting home having a piece of toast of going out to the pub for my shift.
All my dreams of a life of freedom, excitement, travel, adventure and humanitarianism seemed like a million miles away and my reality was the 9-5 that I had always dreaded. Urgh.
The Leap Of Faith
The day came for me to quit. I had never quit a job before, I remember feeling so afraid – afraid of the unknown, afraid of what ‘the peanut gallery’ would think, afraid of what my boss would say.
I plucked up the courage and I can remember the terror that gripped me was so intense- I thought to myself- “How does anyone quit a job to take a chance on their dreams if they have a mortgage and kids?” I was 22 and just had a student loan and the rent on my flat to find – which I knew I could make if I took more hours at the pub until I figured out my path.
This was one of the first times I became aware of the power of a decision to shape your life:
|“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.”
Looking back, just 7 years later and I now have created the life I longed for in my early 20s, thanks to taking that scary decision.
I’m so grateful i took a leap into the unknown and set about manifesting a life and business that allows me to work in my gifts, get paid abundantly without limits and take time off when I want.
I do travel the World, work with humanitarian projects such as the protection of the remaining Amazon rainforest with the Pachamama Alliance and their indigenous partners, and supporting orphanages in Africa and Ecuador.
I recently gave birth to my son and am so grateful that I have plenty of time to be with him and watch him grow up, without worrying about needing to ask my boss for time off if he gets ill or if I want to watch him in the school play or sports day.
I feel blessed with the ability to be a mum and have a business that I love, and I believe the balance flows from doing something that you love, which is on purpose, and plays to your strengths, whilst you outsource the rest!
So How Do YOU Find Your True Calling?
As you can imagine, I didn’t just quit my job and overnight figure out my Calling, but I did get on the path.
I don’t believe in overnight success.
Anyone who has achieved anything in their life and made their life a masterpiece has prepared for opportunity and taken the rough with the smooth.
If you are thinking of starting your own business you must first commit to the mental, emotional and spiritual work necessary when you move out of the security of a paycheck and regular income. You must work on your mindset, wealth consciousness and faith every day.
Entrepreneurs learn to listen to and feel the ebb and flow of life and respond to the challenges, twists and turns on the path whilst staying empowered and not falling into victim mode-
Here are some practical tips to help you in answering your highest call:
- Live In Your Gifts, Outsource The Rest: You need to ‘go with your own grain’ rather than against it and get really honest about what you excel at and what you either can’t stand or can’t do well, and find a team to support you to live your big dream. If you’d like to learn how I did this and you are in a service based industry check out the resources available at my website, www.getyourgiftout.com
- Take 100% Responsibility for your life and everything in it. As an empowered creator and entrepreneur there is no one to point the finger at, you MUST take 100%responsibility for your thoughts, choices and actions because its up to you…However you’ll also be challenged to be more loving and accepting of yourself as you navigate the sometimes choppy waters of going it alone.Ultimately there is no one to tell you what to do, and you will make mistakes, because that is how we learn. You quickly discover that as an entrepreneur you need to fail fast, learn quickly and fail your way to success. This was huge for me , as I had never given myself permission to fail at anything before and thought everything needed to be perfect…Entrepreneurs know the importance of ‘good enough’ and the power of “Just Do It” …If you think it over too much you may miss your chance,….
- Adopt technology if you haven’t already- Release the story that you are ‘not good with computers’- the web is the most powerful tool for business and can free you up to live and work anywhere in the World! Bless the web and make your laptop your best friend! We live in such a time of opportunity and potential, use those resources, even if they are out of your comfort zone at first.
- Be You. I can’t think of better advice for women starting up in their own venture than to just be yourself,… people are tired of faceless, anonymouse companies and we want more than ever connection and human touch…Just look at the rise of facebook and social media to see what I mean.
The power of YOU is that there is no one else like you and people are genuinely interested- try to find a way to bring your passions into your business- like Richard Branson with his hot air balloons or Anita Roddick with her humanitarian ethos.
This is the age of the strong personal brand- whatever your business- be it airplanes, beauty products, cakes or coaching, be sure to add your unique essence and bring all of yourself to the party.
Finally, I want to leave you with the call to sing your song in this life, don’t die with your music still in you. You are special, you do have gifts and talents that the World needs – What you are naturally good at is Life’s clue as to what you are here to do.
Your life is not meant to be a struggle, feel into what you love and what you do best and find ways to add value to people.
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